I got married back in April to a wonderful woman and I am thrilled I got her. She is amazing, I love her very much and I am extremely happy I married her. So to those of you who think you can’t have a successful business and a wife or family are wrong, you just have to be deliberate and make sure you create systems that allow you to spend time away from the business. It’s worth it. No judging here, just don’t let entrepreneurship stop you from pursuing a rewarding relationship if it is something you are interested in.
Yes, find someone who gets it, obviously. Whether the one is the one is only a question you can answer. My wife, who has a business degree and a small business of her own, understands and has been a help to me on numerous occasions. I likewise, helped her outsource, delegate and fix processes. When we met she was 100% trading her time for money in her business. The point is, we are a team and stronger together.
I have been able to have an awesome marriage where we get to spend more time together than an average couple AND be an aggressive entrepreneur. Why? Because when I start any business I think scale from the foundation up, scale involving automation, outsourcing, or delegation affords you your time back. You have achieved scale when the difference between a $600 order and a $60,000 order are the numbers and not much else.
I have NEVER subscribed to the no wife, no kids, no family mentality as a necessity to entrepreneurship. That mentality is a bullshit distraction, an action fake for someone who isn’t married and an excuse for someone who is.
The beautiful part about all of this is I could easily start another if the opportunity presented itself. I don’t really have to work more than a couple of hours a day on average to make this all work. I took 10 days off at the beginning of this month to go skiing. I probably answered 6 phone calls and 10 emails. The businesses kept progressing without me. Yes I travel for work sometimes, I usually offer to bring her. Yes I spend time in the office. So what? I do what needs to be done. My wife and eventually kids will absolutely come before my businesses, but it never becomes a problem because I make the time.
Now as far as business relationships are concerned, I put them in my phone. If I am not willing to reach out and call that individual, they are not a connection. I make a concerted effort to do favors for others, help people with their networking needs, not really expecting anything in return. This makes a difference in the accessibility of your network. If one day you do have a question to ask they will take your call. You aren’t just this guy they met, you are the guy that helped them with X, Y or Z.
Personal relationships beyond family… They MUST be with people you respect. I don’t waste time developing relationships with people I don’t respect. You become like the people you spend the most time around. Choose to spend your time around awesome people, not losers.
Networking is very important. Your quality of your influence is pretty much proportional to your network. Your immediate connections, basically friends are actually less valuable because you operate inside of a knowledge/help bubble that includes them. The somewhat more distant yet friendly connections are the ones that can really pivot a business opportunity. Why? Because they know crap you don’t.
I wouldn’t be conflicted… If you meet the right person… Make both happen.